"It always seems impossible until it’s done, Nelson Mandela"
Comments from my former clients:
"This is a caring, sharing counselling service."
"I was really pleased to find you nearby and knew straightaway that you were someone I'd be able to talk to honestly and openly. And I found our sessions really helpful in understanding the stressful situation I was in and resolving it in a way which was actually quite simple but was still something I hadn't been able to realise on my own. The few sessions we had together (and it really wasn't a long or drawn out process) were cathartic; I managed to get things off my chest which had been building quietly for months without release. And with minimal skilled prompts and questions you showed me how much of this stress it was possible for me to tackle, or manage, or resolve without telling me what to do or putting ideas in my head. I'm very grateful for your support and impressed by your approach, which was both kind and firm; I never felt I was taken in directions I didn't want to go, nor was I 'analysed' but I was supported and guided to my own decisions and a more positive future direction".
"After a very near suicide attempt, I decided that I didn't want social anxiety and self esteem issues to ruin my life and so I sought out a counsellor. Kanta has a very warm, interactive approach to her one-on-one sessions and made me feel at ease when expressing some very painful moments in my life; some of which I had trouble acknowledging on my own and to counsellors I'd seen in the past. Kanta not only helps guide you through pivotal moments in your life but reinforces alternative and better ways of looking back on them so you can simply accept and move on. At one point during our sessions, I thought that I was 'broken' and 'hopeless' but after holding myself together and meeting Kanta halfway with her challenges, I am now reclaiming my confidence, piece by piece. The most effective counsellor I've been to, period".
"After considering whether or not to take the step into therapy. I can genuinely say it has been a life changing experience. I don't think people understand how stressful it is to explain what is going on in our minds. During my time in therapy, I felt that Kanta's approach to understanding was encouraging. Not only was she supportive, she made me realise the recognition of some matters I was dealing with for a long time. Though it was not always easy, it has been a very positive experience. Thank you Kanta"
"I started suffering from anxiety last year, it hit me out of no where. Every thing was in place, but I was feeling physically very ill. My days were horrible, my life stopped. I was having panic attacks every day and went to my GP every other day and the same response "you are absolutely fine". I knew that something was wrong with me so I decided to start therapy.
I looked for a good counsellor and I came across Kanta. After the first session I started to feel better and I knew I wasn't alone in this, finally someone who understood what I was going through. After more sessions I was getting there, started to feel good and happy again. Kanta helped me a lot, she is a very good listener. So if anyone suffers from anxiety, don't wait, seek help, you are not alone. With a good Counsellor you can get your life back before anxiety much easier. Thank you Kanta!!!"
"How liberating to get rid of so much anger. Thank you Kanta for your guidance, wisdom and love.
I never feel guilty when I am with you. You have shown me the way to appreciate ME and in the process make the others appreciate ME too. Thank you".
"I was in a bad relationship for 6 years and was in a traumatic state where my confidence was shattered in to little pieces and I was feeling very low and depressed in my self.
So I decided to seek help and searched for a counsellor close by and came across Kanta's profile and emailed her. I was nervous when meeting Kanta for the first time but went with an open mind.
However when I met Kanta she made me feel at ease as I could open up to her and tell her everything that had happened to me. I could converse to her in English and in Gujarati when explaining things.
Kanta was very patient, so understanding, honest and never judged and understood the issue I had. Through out the sessions she was able to relate to me and give me advice on what to do and helped me develop my self with different techniques.
I would like to thank you in helping me get back to normality with life as I can deal with anything in life."
"I would like to thank Kanta, in helping me cope with many years of negative childhood and health issues.
I felt free to open up and express many of the tensions in my life and now realise that I can cope and be on top of things from my past and also worked on techniques to manage and resolve the immense negativity that I had stored up. Kanta helped me see things in a new light and I would recommend her to anyone looking for a change in life."
"I had been living apart from my (mostly emotionally) abusive ex-partner for over a year when I noticed that I was not able to break certain patterns in my life. Even though he lives 1000s of miles away, I felt he still controlled me. Breaking all contact is not possible since we have a child together so I had to learn how to deal with the situation in a healthier way.
In the first few sessions I told my story and Kanta showed me that it was completely natural to feel this way. The relationship had lasted for over 8 years and I was conditioned to react in a certain ways. I had to learn not to be too hard on myself, but at the same time I had to remember that I did not need his approval anymore. Kanta gave me some exercises to practise setting my boundaries and I quickly noticed the results! From the situation with my ex, we moved on to other areas in my life where I found it hard to set boundaries and I over time I found myself more in control in those situations.
Kanta helped me to see that I deserve to be happy, that I deserve a healthy relationship and that I don't have to accept anybody crossing my personal boundaries".
"When I first started counselling I was full of so much anger. Day in and day out my blood use to boil and I use to scream and shout to my husband and my children. I also suffered anxiety and had a very low self esteem. I hated going out and socialising as I had put on a lot of weight from comfort eating. Both my children felt the impact of my behaviour and they used to have a lot of issues at school as well as between themselves. The way I spoke and behaved with my husband and my children had a massive impact on the whole family. I could not let go of the past and would take up any opportunity to argue about it with my husband. This carried on for a period of 6 years and I just got to a point where I did not know what to do, how to love, and even how to live a normal life. I realised at this point that I needed help as I could not deal with this on my own. I loved my family too much to lose them and hurt them.
I was so scared of speaking to a complete stranger about my personal problems but my first meeting with Kanta was amazing, she made me feel at ease, like a friend, I was able to talk to her about everything and anything during our sessions. I even cried and cried to a point that I could not cry anymore. Not once did Kanta ever judge me; she was very caring and always remained professional. Kanta provided me with tools and methods to help me get through my anger management, she helped me control these anxieties as well as guide me on how to build on my self confidence and self respect. Kanta made me see things from a different perspective, which I would not have been able to do before. Within a few sessions I had noticed that I was dealing with things in a more positive way and was able to control my anger in a better way. I can now communicate better with my family and am so much calmer and happier within myself. I have become a member of my local gym and within a period of ten months I have lost three stones in weight. I have learnt that I am also important and this has really helped me build up on my self confidence. Now, I really enjoy going out and socialising. Kanta, thank you so much for everything, I could not have done it alone. You have helped me save me, my marriage and my children. I got my family back and I will never go back to the old me".
"I decided I needed to see a counsellor when my anxiety and panic attacks started to become more frequent and started to affect my everyday day life. I was starting to hate everything around me and had lost my inner happiness. I am so happy that I came across Kantas' profile who was able to understand and relate to many of my anxieties. She was very patient and honest and never pushed me out of my comfort zone. I found it easy to talk to her and she helped me to control these anxieties as well as build on my confidence and self respect. Now many of my relationships around me are blossoming and I am able to slowly gain back control of my mind and my life. Thank you Kanta for your time and advice, something that will always be invaluable to me."
"When I met Kanta, I was feeling very low about myself, I had no self confidence and just didn't think much of myself. After our first meeting I knew that I would be able to talk to her and throughout our sessions she helped me to deal with the problems in my life. Kanta was so understanding and not judgemental and really understood the issues I faced as a young Asian woman. When I needed to cry, talk or just be quiet, I was able to do that in our sessions. I feel she was able to relate to me and helped me to develop tools that I still use to deal with anything that life throws my way. I don't think I have the words to describe how much the sessions helped me and I will forever be grateful for what she was able to do for me."
"I believe that everything happens for a reason, and for many different reasons I realised that I needed help. Counselling was never something I thought about as a way of solving my problems, or challenging my thoughts. For years I was suffering alone and in silence, thinking that this was the ‘right’ way to deal with everything. In fact I found myself going round in a vicious cycle of negative thoughts, battling with myself to get through each day.
Losing some of the people closest to me because of this was the turning point in my life, and making that first step in contacting Kanta is honestly one of the best decisions I have ever made. Kanta has made a massive impact on my life and our sessions have proved invaluable to me, beyond what I could have anticipated. I will always be grateful for everything she has done for me. If there’s one thing I’ve learnt it’s be careful who you open up to. Only a few people care, the rest are just curious. Kanta is someone who genuinely cares. Thank you for everything."
"We really appreciate your support to our child who was struggling with many problems and loss of confidence. Your sessions helped our child to regain confidence and we are so happy to see the smiling face of our child again. We have requested your help when it was affecting the studies and health of our child. You have guided my child to realise the true potential and to decide what is good and what is bad. Also my child is now very confindent to face problems and challenges lying ahead.
Thanks you once again and wish you all succcess. May god bless you to help more people who are in need.."
"For a long time I've felt alone and counselling has given me someone to talk to and make me feel like I'm not dealing with this all by myself, that there is help and support out there. I've found it useful and it's helped me to become more aware about my thoughts."
"I was suffering from stress and extreme fears of being open to the public as well as meeting new people. I lost my self esteem, confidence to study and perform well. Counselling sessions with Kanta showed me how to tackle my fears and stress. By doing simple exercises such as mind map I was able to identify and gain control of my mind."
"When I first started counselling I was a very angry person and full of rage. My fear and mental abuse from my childhood was stopping me from moving forward in my life. I was shouting and screaming almost every day. My blood was boiling every time I got angry. I started getting horrific nightmares and was unable to have a decent night’s sleep because my mind was active and working overtime to resolve problems from my everyday life. From a result of the nightmares, I was exhausted during the day whilst at work and unable to keep my concentration. I was too tired to go out anywhere because I didn’t have any energy which made me miserable. It had taken over my life!
Counselling with Kanta helped me improve my life in many ways. Every day seemed to be a struggle and a challenge, but talking it through with Kanta made it simpler and easier to face. I am a lot calmer and happier now and my nightmares have all disappeared. I am able to express my opinion in an assertive way rather than being afraid to speak my mind. Counselling provided by Kanta is very valuable to me and I will always be grateful. Thank you Kanta."
"At first I was scared of going to counselling as I wasn't sure if I would be able to talk to a stranger who would be able to understand me, however, in Kanta I found a friend who was willing to listen and give me the time I needed to be able to let my feelings out. At the time of counselling I had hit a crossroad in my life and Kanta helped me to see things from a different perspective so that I could think with a clear head and make the right decisions for my life. Kanta was always understanding and most importantly honest, and this helped me to understand myself and my surroundings in a much better and positive way.
I am very grateful for the help and support I have received from you Kanta, thank you."
"I have found my sessions with Kanta to be invaluable in starting to change my patterns of low self esteem and confidence. Within a few sessions I had already noticed that I was approaching things in a more positive way and almost 'stepping outside' myself to change the way I dealt with family and work situations to best effect. I had suffered with self doubt, feelings of guilt and low confidence for most of my adult life but now feel positive about the change it has made and am looking forward to the future."
"When I met Kanta I felt a connection right away. We worked together throughout the time I had counselling and I experienced warmth, acceptance and honesty from her that helped me make sense of the things going on around me and i was able to get through difficult times."
"Sometimes you get to a point in your life when you realise that you need help, I had come to that point. I was in my forties, plagued with self doubt and fear, feeling unfulfilled and inadequate. I knew that the bullying I had suffered as a child was still controlling my life. I had never talked about or acknowledged the bullying and it seemed ridiculous, almost embarassing, to be affected by something that happened over 30 years ago, and yet this unsaid thing was tainting every thought and belief that I had.
It was really hard to know where and who to turn to for help. In Kanta I found someone I could trust, someone who encouraged me to talk about all those things I had bottled up over the years. She challenged my long held beliefs and provided a safe environment in which to explore some of those earlier incidents. Over the weeks I could see subtle shifts in the way I behaved, I was learning to think in a different way. With Kanta's help I have rebuilt my foundations, not only am I much better able to cope with life, but for the first time I'm excited about the future and confident that I can handle whatever comes my way."
"One should not underestimate the good that can come out of sometimes, just a few sessions of counseling.- It was of great importance to me to find the right person to help through my difficulties. Each session for me meant learning better communication methods with my family. Each new tool I learnt helped me cope with the different relationships and characters in my family. For these tools and methods and your total support, I am grateful- thanks Kanta!"
"Following a traumatic accident, your sessions have played a huge part in dealing with the situation. You have made me aware that I am stronger than I perceive myself as being. I have become more confident in myself and feel I am able to move forward in a positive way. Most importantly during your sessions I did not feel as though I was being judged. No words could explain how grateful I am to you."
"I found that what helped me is having a space to say whatever I wanted to instead of keeping it in my head and someone listening to me that seemed to care. Also helped me look at things about myself I usually wouldn't notice and I was able to improve on it."
"You have changed my life, actually, you've saved my life."
"The fact that you were able to see my problems through my point of view was key in then being able to diagnose the source of what was bothering me the most. Once I was able to focus on what I wanted and also importantly what I didn't want enabled me to be more decisive. I was finally able to get on with life with self confidence knowing that even if there were problems lying ahead, I was doing the best I could.
Ultimately, I'm very glad I had those sessions with you. It made a huge difference (positively) to the quality of my life and I really can't thank you enough."
"Only drugs I'm taking is seeing a counsellor, and I wish I had done this twenty years ago" said one client to her family and friends when they started to notice the positive changes in her that they had not seen.
If you're reading this, it is likely that either you or someone you know could benefit from seeking counselling/therapy support. I offer counselling in English and Gujarati in the Kenton, Kingsbury, Harrow, Edgware, Stanmore, South Harrow, Harrow Weald, Wembley, Harlesden, Swiss Cottage, West Hampstead and Kilburn. You can either email or call me.